Who doesn’t love to be desired? All of us are willingly or subconsciously trying to chase something or someone in our lives. But how does it actually feel to be desirable, needed or chased? If you are on a page in your story, where you really want to make someone chase you; time to turn the tables once and for all – Here are 15 SECRET and SUBTLE WAYS TO MAKE ANYONE CHASE YOU:
1. Be Self Assured
A confident person is very attractive. It is the key. Remember that- No one is perfect. Even the person you look up to and aspire to become, is NOT perfect. Fake it till you make it. Even if you are under-confident or insecure, pretend that you are confident. Try to work on your insecurities. You do not need to pay heed to anyone’s opinions about you. All eyes are on the seemingly most confident person in the room. Love yourself the way you are, be self confident and watch them make the first move.
2. Would You Chase You?
Be honest and ask yourself a simple question: “Would you chase them if they were you?” If you answered in a yes, it’s excellent; but if you answered in a NO- you now know where the problem is! Try to focus the most on yourself. You want to be the main character of your life. You must love what you see when you look in the mirror. Dress for yourself and dress to impress. Be attractive- Be someone, people would be interested to talk to. Work on your personality and you will gradually realize that they’ve started to show interest in you a lot more than before.
Make a list of all the qualities in them which wow you and become that list yourself!
3. Be Charming
One can be charming in subtle ways. Smile genuinely and make eye contact when you interact with or talk to the person, you want to grab attention of. Talk about yourself only when you are asked to. Keep yourself busy and leave room for mystery.
4. Be Witty
A pretty face or a fit body, might be the first things a person feels attracted to. However, owning spontaneous inventive humor and being capable of holding a conversation can make anyone chase you harder.
5. Have Your Own Say
Someone eloquent, is instantly attractive. Have your own opinions and feel free to voice them out. You do not need to be very opinionated or disrespectful, but having your own say in a conversation reflects that you have your own voice and are capable on your own.
6. Do Not Overshare
People tend to lose interest in people who are always available and overfriendly. Being overfriendly and oversharing is the easiest and sure shot way to push people away. If you keep oversharing about yourself and your life, why would anyone feel the need to chase you? We often tend to chase things and people who seem to be mysterious and out of our league.
7. Be Socially Active
Hang out with your friends. Spend time with them and develop your social skills. You would not want anyone to assume that you have no one by your side or they are the only thing you care about. Being socially active is correlated to being self assured and confident. Do not solely give them too much of your attention. Spend time with everyone. The key to make anyone chase you, is chasing your own inner self.
8. Be Yourself
Don’t pretend to be someone you are not. The goal is to be chased, but by whom? You would want to attract people who like you for the way you are. Pretending to be someone else is heavy on the heart and it is not good for your own inner peace and mental health in the long run.
Remember that no amount of validation from anyone can make you feel happy or fulfilled. Be yourself and love who you are, everything else is like cherry on the top.
9. Do Not Overplay The TOO HARD TO GET Card
Don’t go overboard as hard to get. Playing too hard to get is great to some extent, because what is the point of chasing someone when they are almost always available? On the contrary, if you do not give ANY attention to the person you want to make a connection with or are expecting a chase from- it will all become pointless if they assume that you are disinterested. They might eventually accept the situation and choose to move on.
To make anyone chase you, you need to be providing something- maybe a feeling or energy that they can’t resist. Just like addiction, they would eventually come back to you, every single time.
Here are some toxic, yet powerful tricks to make anyone addicted to you:
10. Become Their Certainty
Try to become their support system. You would want to become their safe space- the person they can count on anytime and rely on. This will strengthen your bond and increase your worth in their life.
11. Show Variety
Be spontaneous. Being unpredictable and showing variety is like adding a little bit of spice to your connection. It also rekindles the spark and leaves them awed and impressed.
12. Make Them Feel Significant
Make them feel important and special. Buy them small gifts. Validate them with compliments and reassure them with your words.
13. Love And Connection
Show love and try to connect with them, both emotionally and physically. Working on the love and connection between the two of you is altogether a win-win situation.
14. Help Them Grow
They need to feel growth in your presence. Encourage them to go for their goals. Help them become a better version of themselves. People tend to stick along with people, they feel growth with.
15. Contribute
Add value to their lives. Show them that they or both of you together are making a difference. Allow them to give inputs. Let them contribute to your personality and life in general.
All these things will make them feel that they are needed in your space and they will tend to chase that space in your life and you altogether.
Conclusion :
The need of wanting anyone to chase you derives from the idea of the want to feel desired and needed. Never forget that no amount of validations and assurances from anyone can make you happy. Love yourself first, it’s the only way to feel contented, happy and at peace with oneself always. Although the chase game is pretty toxic, it can also help if you truly mean a connection and desire it in your life.
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